Why do men hurt more after a breakup | Dating, relationship and break-ups
After a breakup, women tend to cry our eyes out, vent to some friends, and then eventually get over it. Guys don’t do that — in fact, one recent study has even proven that men suffer more after breakups than us. So why does it seem like they move on the next day? Instead of taking a moment to deal with what happened, guys try to mask their feelings with rebounds and new relationships. In other words, it’s all a ruse. Trust me — he’s suffering way more than you are.
1. GUYS DON’T QUITE GET OVER IT. 
Most men aren’t wired to handle breakups like we are. They don’t have a grieving period. Instead, they usually either feel anger or confusion. It’s kind of their default for dealing with a situation they’re uncomfortable with. So while you’re getting over him, he’s just trying to ignore the situation completely.
2. THERE’S NEVER ANY RESOLUTION. 
You cry things out, analyze what went wrong, and talk to your friends. By keeping everything locked down tight, he doesn’t ever find closure. His version of resolution is jumping right into another relationship. It’s not all in your head that he seems to move on more quickly.
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4. HE KEEPS HIS EMOTIONS IN CHECK. 
Guys are taught from a young age that emotions are bad. If you feel anything, you keep it quiet. While I don’t think a man that cries when the weather changes is sexy, I like the idea of a man who isn’t afraid to let his emotions be a little more obvious. After all, bottling up isn’t good for anyone.
5. HE’S SUPPOSED TO GET UNDER SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY. 
Yes, we do rebounds, too, but it almost feels like a requirement for guys. His friends pressure him to forget you by getting under someone as soon as possible. What better way to get over a breakup than sex with a stranger? Yeah, it doesn’t work that well.
6. EVERY LOSS JUST PILES UP. 
Ignoring the pain of a breakup doesn’t make it magically go away. Every breakup just adds more pain, so when the two of you breakup, it’s just more weight on his shoulders. No, you shouldn’t feel guilty, but it might make you feel better that you’re not the only one who’s changed irrevocably.
7. GUYS ARE OFTEN THE ONES GETTING DUMPED. 
Women are great at dumping men. Guys do it sometimes, but women tend to do it more often. Think about how you feel when you get dumped — it hurts like hell and stings your pride. Usually the one getting dumped has a harder time dealing with the breakup. Of course, it’s even worse if you don’t break it off the right way.
8. HE BELIEVES IT’S ALL HIS FAULT. 
Men have this “fix-it” attitude. If the relationship fell apart, he thinks it’s all his fault. Even if he’s blaming it on you, on the inside, he’s wondering what the hell he did to cause the breakup. The constant mental what-if gymnastics make him feel like crap.
9. THERE’S LITTLE POST BREAKUP SUPPORT. 
How many guys do you hear sitting around talking about how they feel, how upset they are and how they wish they could’ve made things work? Yeah, it doesn’t happen often. Guys don’t have the same kind of welcoming support system as women. It’s sad, but it’s true.
10. HE’LL JUST KEEP MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES. 
Since he’s not dealing with the breakup, he’s not learning anything, either. This means he’s going to keep making the same mistakes. He’s not going to learn until some woman takes pity on him and tells him what to do differently. It’s like the suffering never ends.
11. GUYS SOMETIMES LOSE MORE FRIENDS POST-BREAKUP. 
What can I say? Women are great at building strong friendships. This kind of blows for guys though. In trying to pull away from anything to do with the relationship, guys might even try to work to keep mutual friends. Not only do they lose you, they lose their friends.
12. MILLENNIAL-AGED GUYS FEEL MORE STRONGLY. 
While male emotions still aren’t super accepted, millennial-aged guys tend to allow themselves to feel more strongly and openly than past generations. It only serves to reason this makes them hurt more.
It might be a small comfort, but knowing you’re not alone in your post-breakup suffering might just help you move on a little faster. Ignore his actions and know he’s suffering just as much, if not more than, you.
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