7 Psychology Tricks to Build Unstoppable Confidence
“HERE I COME, PANAMA”, he yelled with open arms, right after passing the gates that would take him to his flight. He only had a guitar case and a gym bag with him.
As usual as it was in Venezuela at that time, I had gone with my friend Erick to the airport to say goodbye. I watched him walk away with the feeling that things would never be the same. I would probably not see him for at least a couple of years.
That day may have been a reason for endless melancholy and nostalgia.
And it was, in a way.
But it also was the day I understood what courage was.
You see, Erick had almost nothing when he decided to go away. He had a guitar, some clothes, and a bag to hold them in.
That’s it.
Yet, regardless of fear, doubt, and the unknown, he walked through.
Now think of any of us, sitting in our comfortable chairs, staring at an empty page or a white screen, feeling anxious about how to start.
That happens because we are afraid of what we might lose.
We are afraid to be ridiculed, maybe even to find out that we were not as good as we thought.
But those moments are exactly the moments that decide.
Are we going through the gates or not?
Are we getting through the unknown with open arms?
Are we discovering what we can actually do?
Drop the heavy luggage.
Walk through.
Start.
How to Develop the Leadership Quality of Courage | Brian Tracy
Everybody is courageous past their own,umm..should I say, threshold limit!
Take a cat for an example, it will run when a dog chases her relentlessly to save its skin, but no fury compares to that of a cornered cat.
I will give you one advice in this regard, tap into your basic instinct and jump onto it. You will be surprised when you start listening to your gut.
The brain, the analysis of right and wrong, makes you consider your fear out of proportions. Don’t get confused, its not bad for you. Fear is what keeps you alive. But when it prevents you from doing anything, then heed my advice and listen to your gut.
Decide what you stand for and then stand up for it, irrespective of situation. But there is thin line between courage and aggression, just that your decision should not be in the liking of antisocial behaviour or towards any community or their feelings. If anything wrong is being done to you or to your loved ones, then you stand up and stand tall.
How can I increase my courage?
In general, we experience two types of fear: the fear that indicates we’re in physical danger (for example, when we’re standing in the middle of a busy road), and the fear that indicates our ego is in danger (e.g. fear of public speaking).
In modern society, there are very few situations in which we are in physical danger, so most of the fear we feel has more to do with threats to our ego and self-concept than threats that could cause us physical harm. However, these two types of fear feel very similar, and provoke the same primal fight or flight response in our body.
Boosting our courage isn’t about eradicating our fear; it’s such a primal, instinctive response that this isn’t a realistic goal. Instead, it’s about learning how to respond to our fear in a healthy way. Here are seven effective ways you can start boosting your courage today:
Jordan Peterson: How to Become a Courageous Person
1. Remind yourself that fear isn’t always helpful.
Fear is helpful in situations where we have control and can take steps to minimize the risk of our disaster scenario coming true. For example, if we’re still standing in the middle of that busy road I mentioned above, fear is a good indicator to start moving. Equally, if we’re facing an upcoming public speaking gig, our fear might indicate that we need a little more practice.
In some situations, however, fear can do more harm than good. If we respond to every fear-inducing situation like we’re in mortal danger, we’re going to end up missing out on valuable opportunities to live fully and enjoy growth and new experiences. A helpful, courage-boosting question to ask yourself when deciding how to respond to a situation is: “Am I avoiding pain, or seeking growth?”
2. Expand your comfort zone gradually.
Boosting your courage isn’t something that happens overnight. It’s a day-by-day process and you’re more likely to experience success in this area if you focus on expanding your comfort zone one step at a time.
For example, if you notice that you feel fear around talking to new people, start small by asking someone for directions or striking up a short conversation with people you encounter in your day-to-day life but are unlikely to see again (shop assistants, checkout staff, people waiting in line, and so on). Once you feel more comfortable doing that, start working your way up to longer conversations with people you are likely to see infrequently (new work colleagues, friends of friends), then people you’re likely to see on a regular basis, and so on.
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How to Build Your Courage | Cindy Solomon | TEDxSonomaCounty
3. Remember to breathe.
Our physical state has a huge impact on our emotional state. Try slouching over and drooping your mouth into a frown for 10 seconds, then sitting up straight with a dazzling smile for another 10—did you notice a difference in how you felt?
If we want to boost our courage in a particular situation, one of the most effective ways of doing this is to slow down our breathing. When we’re feeling fearful, our breathing unconsciously becomes faster and shallower. Taking a few deep breaths sends the signal to our minds that everything is OK and helps us relax.
4. Take a step back and get objective.
Usually, the fear we feel isn’t so much about the worst case scenario we’re thinking of—it’s about how we would feel if that scenario comes to pass.
Using the public speaking example, let’s imagine the worst case scenario is that you forget what you wanted to say. Even if the audience ended up booing you off the stage, all that would happen on a factual level afterwards is that you go home and learn from the experience for next time. How you feel, on the other hand, might include embarrassed, ashamed, hopeless, and a host of other uncomfortable feelings. The next time you’re faced with a public speaking opportunity, it will be the feelings you remember and fear more than what actually happened.
To boost your courage, try to stay objective and focus on the facts of the matter. Pay attention to what actually happened, rather than the meaning you’re attaching to it.
Courage | The Art of Facing Fear
5. Think of how you’d view a friend in the same situation.
One of the biggest challenges to our courage is the fact that we tend to be harsher with ourselves than we are with other people.
The next time you’re faced with an opportunity to expand your comfort zone, ask yourself how you would perceive your best friend in the same situation. Would you focus on the potential pitfalls, or would you admire them for taking the risk?
Thinking about how we’d view other people in the same situation can help reset any stories we’re telling ourselves and engender more self-trust and courage.
6. Ask, “Who do I need to become?” instead of, “What do I need to do?”
When it comes to stretching our comfort zone and committing acts of courage, we often focus on what we need to do. The real shift that needs to take place, however, revolves around who we need to become.
For example, if you decided you wanted to get active and train for a triathlon by the end of the year, information that will tell you what to do to get there is readily available. What will decide whether or not you have the courage to actually go out and do it, however, is thinking about who you need to become in order to be someone who does that.
What qualities would a courageous future version of yourself have? How would they start each day? What new habits would they develop? What old habits would they change?
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7. Take action.
When we’re feeling low on courage, it’s tempting to sit and think about how we’re going to find the motivation we’re looking for, to read articles online (present company excepted, of course), talk about it—anything but actually do the thing we’re afraid of doing.
If you’re waiting to feel more courageous before taking action, you’re going to be waiting a long time. In reality, the longer you wait before taking action, the less courageous you’ll feel. The only thing that will help you feel more courageous is taking action, stepping outside your comfort zone, and sending yourself the message that you are a courageous person.
Affirmation : I develop courage to achieve my plans. I take appropriate steps to make it happen.
Ask you to help yourself ?
God also helps those who help themselves. He will see what steps you take to stand up for self . How much fear and anxiety stops you from facing the truth. Why do you ignore it and feel life will be peaceful. What about the inner conflict that's troubling you always. It's very important to know that when you stand up strong the universe will do everything in your favour to make it happen. Staying in Denial and hoping one day with magic things with get resolved it doesnt happen. We have to walk that every step and make it happen. We have to develop courage to walk that first step.
Is fear holding you back from trying something new or going after what you really want? Here are some ways to get past it.
I hate fear. Fear has cost me a hefty sum in dental bills from grinding my teeth. Fear interferes with sleep, digestion, and many other things that make life worth living. When you examine some of the worst things human beings have done, you'll often find fear as the root cause. There's no doubt about it: Fear sucks.
I wish I could say that I'm a fearless person, but I'm not. At best, I'm a person who does some frightening things even though I may be terrified while doing them. I've run for president of ASJA, scuba-dived through a wreck 100 feet down, even gone skydiving--once. More important, I know for a professional writer, as for any entrepreneur, professional survival requires fighting down your fear and finding courage, time and again. I know that every time I let fear hold me back from something I know I really want to do, it clips my wings just a little bit. So I've tried every trick I can find or come up with to get over being afraid.
Here's what's worked best for me over the years. (And if you've found something else that works, I'd love to hear it!)
The beautiful balance between courage and fear | Cara E. Yar Khan
1. Ask yourself: Should I take action to solve this fear?
You wake up in the middle of the night. You're terrified that the promotional copy on your new website isn't compelling enough and no one will buy your product or service. If your site is launching next week, it might make sense to rewrite some of that copy or get a copywriting expert to evaluate it. If your site launched last week, it's smarter to wait and let analytics tell you precisely what is and isn't working. In general, it makes sense to trust that the earlier you who made a decision was at least as smart as you are now.
All fears are not created equal. Some are useful, and some are useless fears that you can't or shouldn't do anything about. They sap your strength for no reason, and you should put those fears in their place. Worrying about a comet striking Earth falls in this category.
2. Remind yourself that fear can harm you.
Fear evolved for a very good reason--to keep us safe. But in many situations, it actually endangers us. I don't just mean in the sense that stress and worry can destroy your health, although they certainly can. I mean in more immediate ways. In scuba diving, for instance, fear can cause you to breathe too fast, swim too hard, move too suddenly, fail to take note of your surroundings, or rise too quickly toward the surface. (I know--I've done every one of these.) The same thing can happen in other high-pressure situations, such as if fear causes you to mumble or fail to focus on your audience while giving a presentation.
Knowing that fear has the potential to harm you can help you set it aside. Fold up the fear, put it in a box, and promise you'll get back to it later at a less dangerous time.
3. Remember that fear is just chemicals.
You may think it's your judgment deciding that something is dangerous and you should be afraid, but what actually happens is that fear chemicals are flooding into your brain. Experiments have shown that fear can be induced artificially by injecting these chemicals. (Another way we all know this is that most of us get more timid as we age. It's not that the world's gotten more dangerous; it's that our brains process chemicals differently.)
Do the chemicals know what you should and shouldn't be afraid of? Of course they don't. You do.
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4. Enlarge your comfort zone.
Have you ever watched someone not from an urban area encounter an escalator? He or she often finds it frightening. People who never fly are often terrified of getting on a plane, whereas they don't fear driving, even though statistically, that's the more dangerous activity.
The more we stick with what's familiar, the more frightened we'll be every time we encounter the unfamiliar. So seek out unfamiliar territory--try new things, stretch yourself professionally, risk being seen as a fool. I have a sign on my office wall that reads "Did you do something scary today?" It's a good reminder to keep stretching beyond my comfort zone.
5. Do something to engage your cognition.
One good way to take back your brain from chemicals that are flooding it is to do something that engages your prefrontal cortex, the part of your brain that reasons. There are a few ways to do this, but one of them is to focus on problem solving, such as doing a crossword puzzle, bookkeeping, responding to business emails, or other such emotionally neutral activity. I personally find that sitting down at my desk to work always helps me temper an emotional storm.
6. Name your fears.
Naming your fears always takes some of the power out of them. So telling a friend, your partner, or your spouse what you're most afraid of can be a great way to cut those fears down to size. I find it's very helpful to write them down. The simple act of doing that causes my thinking brain to kick in, and even as I'm writing the words, it begins coming up with solutions and backup plans in case my fear comes to pass.
7. Meditate, or at least stop and breathe.
Meditating (sitting quietly and trying to clear your mind of all thought while you focus on a word or phrase, or simply your breath) can make a huge difference to brain function, even if you do it for only five minutes a day. But sometimes a daily meditation practice of even a few minutes is hard to maintain. (I don't manage to do it, even though I know it works.) If so, you can still help yourself, especially when you're feeling afraid, by simply stopping for a few moments and focusing on your breath. Filling your brain with oxygen will help it drive out fear.
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8. Embrace your fear, then let it go.
One of the most effective antifear tricks I've ever found happened when I was on a yoga retreat in Costa Rica two years ago. At the time, my life was more full of uncertainty than usual. My husband and I wanted to relocate. Our finances were more precarious than usual. Not only that, the day before I left for the trip, a small rental house that we own was badly damaged in a fire.
Far from home, there was little I could do to solve our problems or even communicate much. Things would work themselves out--our insurance would pay for rebuilding the house, and we would get our finances in order. But at the time, my fears were running wild. Finally one day, I decided I was sick of it. I was in a yoga class at the time, so I gave myself permission to wallow in my worries for as long as the class went on. When it was over, I told myself, I would be finished with useless fear.
It worked better than I expected. I was able to stop fretting and enjoy the rest of the trip. And even now, when I find myself grappling with useless fear, I remind myself that I'm finished with that, and it helps.
Great question. Here are five ways to help you in cultivating courage for your life…
How to be FEARLESS and DEVELOP COURAGE
1. Take Cold Showers
In certain circles, the benefits of cold showers have already been harped on. Physical health benefits aside, taking cold showers increases your courage on a daily basis.
Your mind will initially resist stepping head first into a seemingly hostile jet of cold water first thing in the morning, but as with the way most fears go, the more you step in the more you will grow (and learn that it isn’t as bad as you thought it would be).
2. Approach People That You Find Attractive
Regardless of your current or long-term goals when it comes to your dating life, it is my firm belief that one of the fastest ways to cultivate courage in your life is becoming adept at approaching people that you are attracted to and starting conversations with them.
Start off by doing simple things like asking them for the time or directions, and slowly move up to doling out compliments or having extended conversations. This habit, when consciously cultivated, will pay dividends for your courage.
3. Be Assertive In Uncomfortable Social Situations
It’s all too easy to sweep the dirt under the rug when it comes to social tension… but too much ignored dirt makes your house start to smell (I like metaphors… a lot. I have a problem).
Whether it’s a co-worker who took credit for one of your ideas, an ex spreading malicious lies about you, or a strained relationship between you and one of your parents, facing up to social tension by having difficult conversations works wonders for cultivating courage.
It’s easy to not make tough decisions and live life the hard way, and it’s hard to make those decisions and then earn the courage to live life the easy way. Step up. It’s not nearly as difficult as you’re telling yourself it is. And it’s always worth it.
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4. Follow Your Fears
This past January I kicked off the new year by writing down a list of all of the things that I most deeply feared for one reason or another, and then committed to doing all of those things within the next six months.
I feared autonomy, losing my hometown roots, the depths of the ocean, and heights… so I packed up my bags and traveled methodically around the world to go rock climbing, scuba diving, and anywhere else that would challenge me.
Was I scared? Terrified. But I did it. And I came out stronger on the other side.
Write down a list of things that you fear – and charge through them. Do you fear public speaking? Sign up for Toastmasters or lead a public group meeting (check out Find Meetup groups near you for ideas). Afraid of rejection? Go out and approach ten cute girls and realize that people are a lot friendlier than you might think. Afraid of heights? Visit an indoor rock climbing gym for practice.
5. Surround Yourself With People That Motivate You
We become the average of the five people we spend the most time around. If your friends are constantly bitching about their lives, and not challenging themselves in any way, then you need to cut ties as soon as possible.
Find people that you admire and add value to their lives until they have no choice but to be your friend. Get around mentors (even if you have to pay them) that scare you a little bit. The only “right” way to go about this is to choose the path that gets you around high-value role models as soon as possible.
Best of luck!
What causes lack of courage?
If you're like most people, you probably equate courage with fearlessness, but that's a faulty interpretation. In fact, courage is taking action in spite of the fear you feel. Courage is the willingness to respond fearlessly despite the anxiety and worry that might be tugging at you.
In fact, one of the best ways to be courageous is to understand what you're afraid of and then refuse to allow that fear to paralyze you. Because if you let it, fear has the power to stop you from moving forward, taking risks, and making the most of opportunities. Meanwhile, being courageous allows you to take chances, pursue your dreams, and get what you want out of life.
If you've been struggling with fear and want to feel more courageous in your life, there are a number of ways you can exercise your courage muscles and make the most out of every situation. Here's an overview of what you need to know about courage as well as tips on how to make sure you're living a life filled with bravery.
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Benefits of Courage
Being more courageous in your life will help you respond appropriately to risks and accomplish positive things in your life. But it takes work to move beyond your fears. In fact, being courageous is about thinking things through, examining the risks and rewards, and acting in spite of the fear that inevitably sets in.
What's more, courage gives you the power to chase after things that are important to you. It also bolsters your self-confidence and allows you to believe in your abilities. Likewise, it's important that you realize that courage is not the absence of fear.
In fact, feeling fearful is healthy because it causes you to slow down and evaluate risks properly. Never beat yourself up or assume you are not courageous if you feel fearful. To be courageous means that you are able to act in spite of feeling fearful. Additionally, the more you are able to face your fears, the more you will replace your fear-based response with a courageous one. Here are some other benefits of courage:
- Being courageous in the midst of fear can build your self-confidence.
- Embracing courage allows you to see the world from a different perspective.
- Making courage a part of your life equips you with the ability to empower others to do the same.
- Choosing to step out of your comfort zone and be more courageous makes you a more well-rounded person and broadens the experiences you have in your life.
- Being courageous makes you a more successful person because you're more likely to pursue your dreams and seize opportunities as they present themselves.
- Embracing courage and incorporating it into your life will increase your sense of happiness.
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How to Feel More Courageous
Being fearful is a powerful force that can lead to stagnation. In fact, if fear is not viewed correctly it can prevent you from achieving your goals and pursuing opportunities. Consequently, many people allow fear to keep them stuck in their comfort zone rather than flexing their courage muscles and trying something new in spite of the risks.
If you find this scenario sounds an awful lot like your life, you may want to delve a little deeper and determine the areas in your life where you could be more courageous. For instance, do you need to go after that promotion at work rather than just hoping they notice your hard work? Or, do you feel like you should speak up the next time the office bully is putting someone down? There are probably countless areas in your life where you can be a little more courageous. Here are some ways to help you embrace courage and implement it into your life.
Maintain a Healthy Perspective
Too many times, people assume that you are either born courageous or you're not. And while it is true that some people could be more predisposed to displaying courage, that doesn't mean that all is lost for you.1 In fact, it's best to view courage as a muscle. And while some people might be born with more defined muscles than others, everyone has the ability to improve their courage muscles with the right training and practice.
Likewise, it's important to recognize that fear is not a bad thing. In fact, in some ways fear is healthy. For instance, fear triggers your nervous system and your survival instincts that are designed to keep you safe. For this reason, you might feel fearful when approached by a stranger in a dark alley or you might feel fearful during a tornado.
Instead of assuming that being fearful is a bad thing, look at it as an opportunity to learn more about who you are and why you might be afraid or less than thrilled about stepping out of your comfort zone. You might find that if you take the time to name your fear and understand why it's there, that you will uncover a better idea of how to overcome it or be courageous in spite of it.
In fact, research shows that putting your feelings into words helps curb your negative responses to fear.2 Plus, voicing your fears doesn't make you weak. Instead, it makes you brave. After all, it is not easy to acknowledge where you are vulnerable. So, if you are able to acknowledge your fears, you're one step closer to being courageous.
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Consequently, rather than minimizing your fear or denying that it exists, recognize what is holding you back. By acknowledging your fear—either by writing it down or by sharing it with a supportive person—you are empowering yourself to be courageous in spite of feeling fearful.
Identify Your Strengths
When it comes to living a life filled with courage, it helps to begin by identifying what you're good at as well as where you have been successful. In fact, research shows that people who recognize and develop their strengths not only feel happier and less depressed but are also more resilient.3
Additionally, knowing what you're good at helps boost your confidence, which makes it more likely you will take risks and be courageous. Likewise, when you're confident in your abilities, you're much more willing to go all-in when an opportunity presents itself.
What's more, when you are struggling with fear and want to incorporate more courage in your life, it's natural to focus on your shortcomings and your weaknesses. But, doing this just makes it less likely that you will feel courageous. For this reason, it's important to think about what you're good at as a way of building your confidence and your courage.
Examine Different Scenarios
When it comes to being courageous, it's helpful to imagine not only the worst thing that could happen if you take a risk but also what would happen if you didn't act at all. Many times, comparing the two extremes is all you need to move beyond your fears because most of the time, the worst thing that could happen is often minimal in comparison to what you could gain by acting. If you regularly use comparisons like these, you will build an immunity to letting your fears control you over time.
Additionally, you can create scenarios where you envision yourself doing something that you're afraid of. Imagine how you will handle each possible scenario including how you might respond or what you might say. These exercises are a way for you to practice being courageous without having to put yourself out there until you feel ready.
Practice Leaving Your Comfort Zone
When you let fear keep you from doing something fun, going after something you want, or expressing who you are at your core, it can result in a life that is not truly lived. And if you want to change that aspect of your life, it's going to take being intentional about your life.
Building your courage muscles requires that you push yourself to step outside of your comfort zone. Consequently, choose some scenarios that make you uncomfortable, but where the stakes are not as high.
In other words, practice being courageous by overcoming little fears like meeting new people or eating alone in a restaurant before you tackle something like taking the lead on a project or heading up your community's toy drive. By starting small, you can get used to being courageous without a lot of risks at first. Eventually, you will get to the point where you can take bigger risks.
Reduce Your Stress
Sometimes people experience fear or feel like they lack courage simply because they are exhausted and the thought of doing anything more just seems too overwhelming. If you find that you're feeling overwhelmed, frazzled, or bogged down, look for ways to relieve stress. It's hard to feel courageous when you are stressed out.
Consequently, look for ways to reduce the stress in your life. In addition to taking care of yourself, look for ways to unwind and decompress. In some instances, that might mean taking a short vacation or some much-needed time off work. Everyone needs a break now and then. So, if you feel too overwhelmed with the thought of trying to be more courageous, it could be that you first need to reduce the stress in your life.
Celebrate Courageous Actions
Every courageous act should be celebrated—especially if living courageously is something new for you. So, don't fail to acknowledge the times when you acted with courage despite feeling fearful. It's important to pat yourself on the back and recognize the effort it took to overcome your fear. In fact, experts acknowledge that those who celebrate small wins tend to be more successful in the long run.4
Of course, you don't have to shout it from the rooftops or blast it on social media, but make a mental note of what you accomplished and allow yourself to feel good about that. You may even want to keep a journal of these little acknowledgments to reflect on at times when you're feeling discouraged or like your life lacks courage. Doing so will keep you from engaging in negative thoughts or assuming that you will never be courageous.
"Build COURAGE!" | Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) | #Entspresso
Welcome Failure
Most people are afraid of failure, which often keeps them stagnate or stuck in the same place. In fact, the fear of failure can lead people to develop rigid standards and become perfectionistic in an effort not to experience embarrassment or shame that comes with failure.5
But failure is an experience that should be embraced. Remind yourself that failure is not a bad thing, especially if you took risks or stepped outside of your comfort zone.
After all, failure is an opportunity to grow as a person. It allows you to learn something new, change directions, and see what you're made of. And if viewed as a welcome experience instead of a worst-case scenario, it stretches you to try new things in spite of the risks involved.
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Hosted by Editor-in-Chief and therapist Amy Morin, LCSW, this episode of The Verywell Mind Podcast shares a strategy to help you find courage when you need it the most.
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When it comes to courage, it's never too late to start living a courageous life. In fact, courage is simply another trait that can be developed with intentional effort and practice. All it takes is the determination to recognize your fears and the willingness to choose to act in spite of them.
And when you identify your fears and take a proactive approach to work through them in order to achieve your goals, you will not only build your self-confidence but you'll also be more successful overall. Look at your fears as an opportunity to build your courage muscles and before long, you will be able to push through your discomfort and live the kind of life you have always wanted.
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Some practical advice:
My wife, who grew up in a home in which speaking one's mind was not looked upon with kindness, became an adult who had much trouble doing it.
When she realized, as you have, that she had a serious problem that was affecting virtually every kind of relationship with people, she decided to take action. Having trained as a scientist, she was inclined to do research into methods or training that might help her.
She settled on Toastmasters, a not-for-profit group that helps people develop public speaking skills, as a way to help her overcome inhibition and shyness about speaking out when it was necessary.
She found it to be an accepting and positive environment, and felt comfort that she was in a group of people, many of whom shared problems similar to hers. As in everything else she does, she really applied herself to the Toastmasters program, eventually helping to found a chapter of the organization inside the New York Society of Security Analysts.
Speaking as the husband of a woman from whom it was at times challenging to extract an opinion about pretty much anything other than highly technical topics, I can tell you that the change in her is astonishing.
Our marriage improved. Her friendships deepened. And, her career flourished. Over the past few years she has been both the keynote and featured speaker at professional conferences. She attributes nearly all of this change to her dedication to the Toastmasters program and how it helped her to "break out of the shell."
There are Toastmasters chapters around the world. Give one a try. Perhaps it will work for you, too.
Well this is a pretty easy question.
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You just gotta condition yourself saying "Fuck it" and do it. Learn to put aside all doubts and just do something. A good way to lead up to it would be to start small: Your neighbors dog always poops in your yard, but the neighbor won't pick it up or handle their dog properly. You gotta say, "Fuck it" and run out there and beat the dog near death with a baseball bat when it crosses your property line. I doubt it will come over again.
Then move up. See a really fine babe at a bar or mall that you just know is out of your league? Just say "Fuck it" and walk up and ask her if she'd like to join you for drinks. Or you can be even more forward, taking a line from the movie 'Shark Attack 3: Megalodon': "Hey you know, I'm feeling a little wired now. Why don't I take you home and eat your pussy?"
Either way, once you have gotten accustomed to just saying "Fuck it" you can start becoming a more courageous individual. It just takes some mental practice if you are starting from a timid and meek state.
Courage of itself is by and from man which is flawed. Therefore, a person is bound to struggle in areas or simply avoid those situations.
It is by faith in God that people are able to overcome adversity. Now if your unsure or adamant that God doesn't exist then that's okay. However, are you willing to consider that a power greater than yourself exists?
And if you do, make that power as you would have it. As a recovered Catholic, that's how I had to start over. And my conception was a God who was loveing and nurturing. Eventually, I knew it was Good who got me through.
There is only one trick to this though, when good things start happening, He loves to hear “ thank you” now and then.
And that's the secret. Be sure to tell everyone.
Best wishes!
The Courage to Face Difficult Tasks – Dr. Charles Stanley
You should practice. Practice makes perfect. Try speaking in front of the mirror imagining your audience or a girl. Then if you can handle that try practicing speaking in front of your family and friends.
Girls are not that different from boys try imaging the girl you want to speak to as a boy and just talk like you normally would.
To get more courage you should tell yourself that you can do it. And what if you can't? It's not the end of the world if you fail. There will be other presentations and other girls. Each time you try you get a better understanding for what you're are doing. It takes a little practice to be decent at something you suck at but a lot of practice to be perfect at something you're decent at.
Good luck! You can do this if you try enough!
If you want to develop courage long term, you should try to incorporate it into your every day life by doing small daily acts that make your heart beat a little faster. Even if it's just making conversation with a stranger, eating dinner in public alone (some people find difficult), etc. Once you start doing these small things each day it can have an massive effect on your mentality, which will make it easier to have the courage to chase after your dreams.
Feel the fear and do it anyway. Be bold and be brave. Take risks and make mistakes- it is the only way we learn and grow. Have faith in yourself. It is most important how we see ourselves so do not worry about how others may see you, that is not your concern.
The Courage to Keep Going – Dr. Charles Stanley
- Have confidence in yourself: To have courage you have to believe in yourself; know that you are valuable and that you deserve having the best. To evoke this feeling in you: Think about your past successes. What did you achieve? How did it feel? Even small victories help to build up your confidence; even if it is just remembering how you learned to walk.
- Shift your focus to yourself: Looking at the external world, all the competition, all the people who rejected you might be scary, if not terrifying. The best way to return to your track is to shift your focus away from this external world and look at yourself. What do you have to say to yourself? Did you miss anything?
- Motivate yourself: Think about what you want to achieve; wouldn't that be extraordinary? Would you be lying down on a field smiling and enjoying the sunshine? Would you be going to a party? Give yourself rewards to keep yourself motivated. A chocolate after a small improvement might be just what you need to recharge your energy.
The world is as big as we dream and we are the artists of our own future. Have confidence, focus on yourself, get yourself motivated and keep moving. For "whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve" - Napoleon Hill
Courage is a choice to put meaning and values above safety. When I was younger I was driving down the highway when I saw small car get clipped by a passing truck. The car was thrown through the air and landed upside down in the grass between the two sides of the highway. I pulled over and got out. Looking at the car I realized the gasoline was pouring out of the tank onto a hot exhaust system. In an instant I realized that I would rather die doing what I knew was right then live having done nothing and knowing the people on the car burned to death when I could've saved them.
I never questioned my own Courage again.
Well, the lion got a medal from the Wizard, however I suspect that this was just a placebo.
I suppose really it depends on the context in which you want to be courageous. Do you want to ask the boss for a pay rise? Ask the girl in accounts out? Drop out of the rat-race, build an Earth-ship and live life off the grid?
Tim Pool and the Courage of Convictions
I suppose you really have to ask of any given situation 'what's the worst that can happen?' Your boss could say No, the girl in accounts could say "I like you but...". I'm not really too sure about my third example. If the worst that can happen is that someone says no, then what have you got to lose? You didn't have the pay rise and didn't have the girl, however if you ask, you might just get..
Obviously this is from my perspective of an insulated and cosseted Westerner, so could be entirely useless...
G.Gordon Liddy wrote a book(Will)about himself in which he described how he overcame his fear of rats. He caught,killed,dressed,cooked and ate the rat. His fear was gone immediately of rats. G.Gordon,as is well documented,pocesses immense courage that he developed. I on the other hand had a deep fear of all snakes. I live in Louisiana where snakes,of all kinds,live. I decided to overcome my fear by learning all I could about snakes and their characteristics. I then proceeded to catch snakes and handle them(very terrifying I might add). As time went on I learned to look at a snake and tell if it was venomous or nonvenomous. I am cautious and observant when out and about,but my deathly fear is nonexistent. Whatever you have a fear about learn all you can about the subject and attempt to face the fear. As time goes on you will learn to trust yourself and courage will come to you. Fear is a natural instinct,courage is developed as experiences come and go. Try things,do stuff,develope your courage by living and facing life head on. Good luck,you will succeed.
- First thing it's not about courage, it's about the giving up fear and Desire to get.
Believe me many other will say you not confident enough but it's not about the confidence it's about the competence, each day you must improve from what you are to What you want to become..
Few things you must follow -
1.go for it now "GOOD PLAN OF TODAY IS BETTER THAN PERFECT PLAN OF TOMORROW".
(one suggestion if you are going for first time practice practice and practice it will surely help).
2. You must have great desire from inside.
3.Do not worry about what other people will think of you if you make a mistake, it's none of you business.
4.We always seduced by safety, just once get rid off that intuitive feeling and take risk.
5.Just do it, more you think more time it will take.
6 . watch few videos and Ted talk, it will let you improve on way of speaking.
7 . practicing in front of mirror is also great.
8. If you can't make it then just fake it, just have faith in yourself, and i am confident enough.
I am brutally honest with I have improved from That condition because I have desire to become and I was ready to pay any price for it.
Sorry I have no experience about that next part,
And had I been then must not have experience about first part or quora.
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