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Do you get prettier when you're pregnant?
I'm pregnant. Why don't I feel great?
Pregnancy can bring on a flood of conflicting emotions. Even though you're overjoyed by the new life growing inside you, there may be days when you're frustrated by your stretch marks, swelling abdomen and disappearing waistline. This is called the 'pregnancy blues'.
Rest assured that it gets easier to deal with your growing body in the second trimester. This is because you will clearly be pregnant! Many mums find it hardest in the beginning when you may just look like you've put on weight.
With all the changes happening to your body, it's natural to sometimes wish that you had your pre-pregnancy body back. But there are plenty of pregnancy beauty bonuses that will help you to look and feel great.
What nice surprises does pregnancy have in store?
- Here's a little perk that no one told you about: the sight of a pregnant woman often brings out the kindness in people. Supermarket workers suddenly volunteer to help you out to your car. People fall over themselves to hold doors open for you. They give up seats on trains and buses. Everyone smiles at you. Enjoy it while it lasts!
- Fast-growing fingernails: around the fourth month, your nails may start to grow faster. Pregnancy hormones get the credit for this, but also the blame. Fingernails may become softer or more brittle too, and you may notice tiny grooves forming along the base of your nails. They should return to normal within a few months after giving birth.
- A fabulous head of hair: during the second trimester, you might notice that your hair looks healthier and thicker. You're not actually growing more but, thanks to pregnancy hormones, you're just losing less.
- That celebrated "glow": also during the second trimester, you may notice that your skin looks brighter. Hormones are partly responsible, but an increase in blood volume also brings more blood to the skin, giving it a radiant look.
- Bigger boobs: it's common to go up a cup size or two during your pregnancy, so you may have a new cleavage to show off!
- A very happy mate: believe it or not, your partner may be loving your new physique. Men tend to see the sensuality in blossoming breasts and soft curves. The sight of your pregnant form is a constant reminder of his virility too!
How can I look my best during pregnancy?
Whether or not you find consolation in the pregnancy perks above, there are lots of things you can do to make yourself feel better about your new body:
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- Emphasise the positive: if your legs are gorgeous, flaunt them in a short dress. Upper arms like a supermodel's? Show them off with a sleeveless top. Proud of your new cleavage? Highlight it with a scoop- or V-neck top.
- Spoil yourself: treat yourself to a pedicure, a manicure, a new lipstick or some lacy underwear.
- Exercise: feeling fit and strong will make you feel better about the way you look and help you bounce back after the birth. Exercising outside will lift your spirits too.
What BabyCentre mums say
"After years of holding in my stomach, I was finally proud to be sticking it out!"
Sarah
"I loved being pregnant. I was massive and used to find it amusing to see people cross the street just in case I gave birth there and then! I did get comments like 'Is it twins?' But it really didn't bother me. I missed my bump like I never thought possible once I'd given birth. So all you soon-to-be mums - stick it out and be proud of your baby. I can't wait to do it all again."
Louise
"I think it should be a general rule that you don't make comments about a pregnant woman's size, no matter how confident she may seem. Everyone should know that a woman who's expecting is like a walking hormone machine, and comments like those can really harm her self-esteem.
...Of course that also includes her size even AFTER she's had the baby!"
Lisa
"A lot of my colleagues have commented, 'Are you sure there's only one in there?' or 'I can't believe how big you are this time!' To which I reply, 'At least I've got a reason for being fat!'
Claire
"The best thing to remember is that your bump WILL be a source of fascination. Even women who have had children themselves forget and thus have distorted memories of what they were like, their size etc. The best thing to do is just ignore all comments, except the ones that say how beautiful it is, obviously!"
Nicola
"I love it when people say how big I am. I take it to mean that my baby is healthy and growing well. Generally people are happy to see a pregnant lady and love to pass on their congratulations and well-wishes."
Carolyn
"I have put on weight and have stretchmarks, but regardless of this I am proud to show off my bump. Pregnancy is part of nature and I will never be ashamed of giving life to the next generation."
Sammi
"I really think that a pregnant woman is one of the most beautiful and natural things in the world."
Danielle
"There is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant woman...AND her body."
Sara
"I love showing my bump and hate baggy, frumpy clothes. Why can't a pregnant woman still be sexy? This is the only time I have boobs - LOVE IT!"
Nicole
"I love my rounded belly. It makes me feel really special!"
Kerry
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"I love the fact that my skin is so clear, my cleavage is amazing (just like I have always wanted) and my hair is so shiny."
Jodie
"My partner has told me that I look different, radiant. I was so pleased because I'm tired and grumpy. I must admit my hair is very shiny and my wrinkles (I'm 40 and pregnant for the first time) don't look so bad. Also, it is great not having a period."
Janet
"My hair and my nails are fabulous and everyone says I'm glowing. That's all good then!"
Felicity
"I enjoyed my new bigger bust and I was lucky enough to keep it even after the pregnancy. I also enjoyed not worrying about when my period was due - the freedom!"
Ellen
"I want to be pregnant again! My hair was shiny, my skin was completely clear for once and not having periods was the best!"
Violet
"Pregnancy sorted out my acne! I'd had very bad skin for over 15 years (since I was 11). I'd tried EVERYTHING to get rid of it and been to numerous dermatologists. When I became pregnant the spots got worse in the first trimester, then gradually started to fade away. Now my son is 14 months old and my skin has stayed completely clear! You can't imagine how that feels after all this time."
If I could go back to my pre-pregnancy self, this is what I would tell her: Your hair will be lustrous and your skin will glow. Also, your thighs will become mottled with grayish-brown patches, thanks to melasma. Heretofore unnoticed veins will make themselves known, streaming across your torso like deep blue rivers. Soft, wispy hairs will cover your belly. Your feet will flatten, widen, and become uncomfortably swollen. And just when you begin to think that you're turning into a hobbit: Men will find you absolutely irresistible.
I know it sounds crazy, but trust me on this. I'm almost seven months pregnant, and much to my surprise, I have never received more flirtatious looks, bashful glances, or random date invitations in my life. Walking around with a protruding belly, it seems, is an easy way to receive unsolicited attention. In the past two weeks alone, three men have asked me out—which could be a coincidence, but then again, the last time someone asked me out like that was in 2011, back when my baby face had strangers calling me "miss" instead of the more staid "ma'am" my smile lines garner today. Honestly, had I known that pregnancy was going to up my game this much, I would have stuffed a basketball down my pants in my single days.
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At first I was convinced that I was imagining the increase in male attention—a harmless self-esteem boost, I reasoned, while feeling fatigued, queasy, and dumpy. The brain does some unpredictable acrobatics while the body is generating human life. But early in my second trimester, while out for coffee with my husband, a fellow cafe-goer kept looking at me. Nothing intense, nothing creepy, just a glance that lingered longer than necessary, followed by a shy smile after our eyes met. Initially I thought I probably had crumbs stuck to my face, because—and I mean this just to emphasize the rarity of this sort of occurrence—while I am attractive enough, I'm not the type of gorgeous that makes unknown men stare from across a coffee shop. I am, however, most certainly the kind of woman to have a smattering of flaky pastry remnants on her cheeks.
"Hey," I whispered to my husband. "Do I have croissant face?" He assured me that I did not.
"Okay. This is going to sound weird, but is that guy looking at me?"
"Oh yeah," he said. "Has been for the last 10 minutes. I get why he's into you—you're a hot pregnant lady."
"I don't know about that," I said.
"Well, I do," he said. "And besides, I think men have a caveman-brain thing going on. We can't help but notice a woman who's fertile."
Caveman or not, my would-be cafe suitor was the first of a string of unknown men who, as my bump has grown, have collectively shown more interest than I received before getting pregnant. A few blocks from my apartment, a sweetly sincere dude with intense facial piercings complimented my eyes, then asked if he could take me to dinner. "I'd like to get to know you," he said with a slow smile. When I pointed to my belly, he laughed and said he'd treat me to dinner for three. Another time, as I was heading to work, a 20-something guy fell into step next to me, doused me with charm, and looked hurt when I declined his offer to buy me a coffee. Then there are the men—usually a few a week—who simply flash their bedroom eyes and move on. It doesn't bother or delight me; it baffles me. This just didn't happen before I was visibly pregnant.
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To be sure, the majority of male attention during my pregnancy has been endearingly wholesome. Most men kindly wish me well, ask how far along I am, share parenting advice, or are otherwise friendly and low-key. (I'll always remember and appreciate a construction worker who, with the quiet gallantry and flourish of a knight, halted traffic to let me waddle across 37th Street.)
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Still, that smaller but steady group gives off a different, let's-get-it-on vibe. Which is odd, because, when you think about it, a pregnant belly is pretty much the biological version of a flashing neon sign that reads sᴏʀʀʏ, ʙᴜᴅᴅʏ, sᴏᴍᴇ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ɢᴜʏ ɢᴏᴛ ʜᴇʀᴇ fɪʀsᴛ. Somehow it doesn't seem to matter—my husband was even with me in that coffee shop when the unanticipated attention began.
I know this might come across as a humblebrag: Oh, my belly is out to there and I waddle around in sensible shoes, but guess what, men find me hotter than ever before! But I'm not the only one to have experienced this unlikely phenomenon; friends have experienced the same thing, and they're just as surprised as I am. "I remember thinking that men would avoid me at all costs once I was carrying another man's child—that the responsibility would be a turn-off—but it was the opposite," one friend said of the attention she received while pregnant with her daughter. Then there's another friend who went to her 10-year college reunion sans husband and pregnant, and delighted in all the attention she received—it felt like far more than she had received whens she was in school. "The best part was seeing the look on their faces when I told them the news."
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But why? When you're pregnant, your body is changing in this really obvious and dramatic way. Even the most benign attention presupposes a kind of corporeal scrutiny that it's not usually acceptable to bestow on any woman, let alone a stranger. Perhaps the socially kosher examination of a pregnant woman's body makes men more likely to tune in to their attraction. A different friend theorizes that some heterosexual men, already prone to appreciate feminine curves, can't help but notice bigger boobs, a rounder belly, a little extra junk in the trunk. Another (and my husband, apparently) thinks that a pregnant woman's obvious fertility triggers a lizard-brained attraction to her (the she-could-have-my-babies theory). Or maybe there's a benevolent (or possibly sexist) wish to take care of a pregnant woman, or maybe some guys just have a pregnancy fetish. Could a swell of prenatal estrogen or pheromones be biologically magnetic? There have been studies suggesting that men are more attracted to women when they're ovulating; is pregnancy-timed attraction a logical extension? Ultimately, the reasons are probably varied and complex.
As bemused as I am by the flirtation surge, I'm choosing to look at it as part of the transition from being a childfree person to a parent. When I first got pregnant, I assumed that people would notice my growing bump, but I didn't expect this kind of male attention. And maybe that's the lesson I need to take from all of this: Even if I try to predict how motherhood will change the way people see me, I'll probably be surprised by the reality.
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Until this pregnancy, I could walk through the world as a relatively untethered individual, but I'll soon be viewed as someone's mom, with all the baggage and connotations that that identity brings. For better or worse, in ways foreseeable and not, everything will be different—and while I'm 99 percent sure that my screeching baby is going to serve as a man-repelling force field, I wouldn't bet money on it. Stranger things have happened.
Has anyone noticed that as soon as you are obviously showing people blatantly stare at you wherever you go? I'm not talking a quick glance, but like a full on ogle at your belly.
Why does everyone do this?! I have it wherever I go, from men, women, older ladies, and teenagers. It's so bizarre. Being pregnant is pretty common isn't it?! If I have my sunnies on and just look out of the corner of my eye I can see everyone staring at my belly, looking me up and down.
I even noticed a few people sitting eating at a cafe and the women had her back to me and her partner was looking at me, said something to her and then she turned around and had a big sticky beak herself. WTF?! I'm pregnant, not the first and certainly won't be the last! Why are people so interested? I admit I might glance at woman's belly if she's pregnant but I don't have a full on stare.
I don't mind if it's in a nice way and they smile/ask how far along I am but to just stare at me with a blank look on your face for ages is pretty rude.
Please tell me everyone else gets this?! 
because they are in awe that we can get this big and still look this good-ha! :) or they are envious of our ability to still move and or are impressed that dinosaurs still roam the earth :)
I love it when i see guys checking me out and then their eyes just stare at my belly like, oh shit shes pregnant. I dont know if it happens to you as well, but i also hate it when other women look at me and they immediately have a pain expression on their face and they say something like OUCH! Almost there huh? I dont know if its a pain expression or ewww expression, either way i hate it. Im not in pain, neither are you, and no im not almost there.
Every woman at my work looks at my belly and then at my face when saying good morning lol. I just got used to it. They don't mean to be rude, they're just curious.
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