9 Things You SHOULDN'T SAY To Your Crush
Keep it cute, or put it on mute.
There are just some things you should never text your crush. Plain and simple.
Certain things can come off as rude. Other things can come off as passive aggressive. And often what we do (especially when texting our crushes) is say something personal that really should be said in a face-to-face conversation. The bottom line is...avoid texts like these at all costs!
So here are 8 things you should definitely NEVER text your crush (if you want them to like you back).
1. One-word responses
One-word responses mean either one of two things: 1.) You’re not interested and simply can’t be bothered to conjure up a full sentence or 2.) you’re being passive aggressive. You don't want to act like a toddler because your crush can’t hang out with you, or won’t drive all the way across town to see you. And saying “fine,” isn’t going to bode well for you or your crush.
2. “We need to talk...”
I’m sure you do, but not via text. Any message that starts with "we need to talk..." should absolutely be something communicated in real life. So many times, we’re afraid of being vulnerable in person, so we use texting as the intermediary tool. We feel “safer” and less “exposed” expressing our emotions via text, and therefore, rely on texting to have serious emotional talks. This is a big no-no. You need to have these types of talks in real life, so both you and he are on the same page. Texting things this serious can lead to miscommunication.
3. Sloppy drunk texts
Once in a blue moon, a drunk text can be cute, but most of the time, they're definitely not. If you’re starting to date, and you send out a “drinking with friends and thinking of you,” that’s kinda cute (I guess). I wouldn’t necessarily like to receive that message, but I do think many folks would. So it’s up to you. If you think your guy would be into something more cutesy like that, do it. Regardless, no guy wants “peeeeeenus hottt. Wwe hsoullntn hve spokeen cause i ilke uuu.”
4. Your love confession
This is something you do in person. “I really like you” texts are okay to send, but only AFTER you’ve at least said it once in person. This goes back to using texting as this intermediary tool, which you don’t want to do.
5. No (or a very delayed) response
So this isn’t what you say, but when you say it. Don’t play hard to get if you like the guy and want to date him. If you see he texts you, and you have the time to text him back, definitely do it. There’s no reason to wait. We’re not in high school anymore. Waiting to text back for no reason is just a turnoff at this point.
6. Unsolicited naked photos
Naked photos are fabulous. Love ‘em. Love sending ‘em. Love getting ‘em. Love the ones that appear more “artsy.” But you should only be sending them when you guys are flirty and it’s appropriate to send some naughty pictures. A random one of out the blue after you’ve been texting a few days feels random, desperate, and thirsty. This is your crush, for God’s sake, not an anonymous dude on Grindr!
7. Super aggressive sexual texts
Again, you need to to get to know the guy you’re messaging first. Be wary of sending very sexually-charged texts from the get-go. This is something that you work up to. You gauge his responses and then slowly get a little bit naughtier in what you say. Then you throw in some of those cute purple devil emojis.
