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Realizing that you are responsible for your life is the very first step in becoming a responsible and self-disciplined person. When you take responsibility for your life, you actually take responsibilities of your actions, which means you will now onwards set targets necessary to live your desired life.
The second step is to put consistent and conscious efforts to hit your targets.
It's not easy to gain discipline though. But it's a one time investment. Once you get that sense of achievement as a result of your disciplined life, it will soon be a habit than an effort to live a responsible and disciplined life.
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How many times have you vowed to improve your self discipline, only to find yourself failing only few weeks later?
You spend hours creating a beautiful colour coded schedule, setting up a new to-do list app and painstakingly planning how you will crush your goals.
You swear you will wake up at dawn, workout every morning, #hustleandgrind and live your best life.
You believe you can have everything you want, if you can just follow the plan.
Then, as it always does, one thing leads to another and things begin to go awry.
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- You oversleep and miss a workout.
- You can't concentrate and start ignoring those pesky to-do lists in favour of listlessly scrolling through cute puppy memes on Instagram.
- None of the habits you tried to form have stuck and you're right back where you started from.
Cue the shame and guilt, the vow to do better, the obsessive planning. The cycle begins again.
What if you could actually pull yourself out of this slough of despond and make real, concrete changes to your habits? What if those habits could last for the long term and actually help you progress towards your goals?
In this guide, we are going to teach you everything you need to know to truly develop self discipline that lasts.
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It's not about which time management app or day planner you use. There are a million and one ways to plan, track and measure your good habits, but they are all useless if you can't form those habits in the first place.
Self discipline is ultimately a state of the mind. If you want to train yourself to be more disciplined, you have to shift your mindset and see the world in a new light.
This doesn't mean you need some sort of life defining epiphany. Even subtle changes in the way you think can dramatically increase your behavior and help you spend less time doing things you don't really want to do and more time accomplishing your goals.
In this article, we'll cover 20 small but powerful strategies and concepts that will change your mindset on self discipline.
Start With WHY: Why Do You Want to Be Disciplined?
Ask yourself: what is the outcome you want to achieve?
You have to have a reason for why you are doing this. If you don't have a specific goal in mind, it's too easy to give up when the going gets tough. You simply won't care enough to push through.
The desire for your goal must be stronger than the temptation to give up, so think about what you really want. (What you really really want.)
Do you want to get your work done more productively so you can spend more time with your family? Do you want to build healthy eating and exercise habits so you can have more energy and feel more confident about your body? Do you want to launch your freelance career so you can be location independent?
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The motivation has to come from within you and you have to really care about the outcome - it won't stick if you're just trying to fulfil something you think you "should" do.
What Self Discipline Isn't
Before you begin on your journey towards building self discipline, it's important to understand what self discipline ISN'T.
- It's not about becoming a superhuman productivity machine who never fails.
- It's not beating yourself up because you didn't achieve more than you did yesterday.
- It's not expecting that you'll never be tempted to sleep in, eat cupcakes or scroll through Facebook.
- It's not rigid and inflexible. It doesn't mean holding yourself to an impossible standard.
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Self discipline shouldn't require a Herculean effort (and if it does, it's not sustainable). It simply requires a normal amount of effort, managed effectively.
Remember that your human brain has evolved to be as lazy as possible in order to conserve energy. Smart self discipline is not about trying to fight that, it's about understanding it and making small, persistent changes anyway.
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Here are 20 strategies I've found helpful for developing self discipline. Not all of these will be relevant to your unique situation, but realistically, you only need to apply two or three of these strategies in order to see a fundamental shift in your own capacity for self discipline.
1. Challenge Your Own Excuses
"Argue for your limitations and they're yours." - Richard Bach
I used to tell myself that I didn't have time to work on my own blog, because I work full time as a freelance writer. By the end of a long day of working on projects for my clients, I was tired of sitting in front of the computer and didn't want to spend more time writing.
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One day, my boyfriend pointed out that if that was my excuse, I would never be able to have time to build my blog. After all, my job wasn't going to change. I had successfully argued for my own limitations.
So, I decided to spend 30 minutes working on my blog every day first thing in the morning, before I got started with client work. It's a short, focused burst of work and I do it first thing, so there's no excuse not to. It might not sound like much, but it adds up.
I started the habit in November 2016 and I've kept it up ever since. That means I've found time for hundreds and hundreds of hours working on my blog thanks to this simple mindset shift.
Try it with your own excuses:
"I can't eat healthily because I don't have enough time to prepare food."
Can you prepare a large batch of healthy food on Sunday and freeze it?
"I can't write a book because I work full time."
Can you work on your book for an hour every evening before bed instead of watching TV?
"I can't exercise because I don't have a gym membership."
Can you go running outside, or follow Youtube workout videos in your living room?
2. Delayed Gratification
In order to build self discipline, we need to master the art of avoiding a temptation that is right there in front of us, so we can hold out for something better in the future. Studies have shown that being able to delay gratification is one of the most important personal traits of successful people.
Sigmund Freud explains that when we are children, we are focused entirely on immediate gratification. The only thing we are concerned with is satisfying our immediate needs of hunger, thirst and attention. As we mature, we learn to tolerate a level of discomfort in order to achieve a greater goal.
For example, we resist the urge to go out partying every weekend, in order to save up to move abroad or buy a home. Or, we resist the donuts in the break room at work every day, in order to enjoy the health benefits of a better diet. Everytime we choose delayed gratification, we are doing a favor for our future selves.
3. Make Choices in Advance
When we have to make several decisions in a day, we can suffer from something called "Decision Fatigue." You might start out making smart choices and delaying gratification, but by the end of the day your ability to choose wisely is spent.
This is why supermarkets place impulse purchases such as chocolate bars by the cash registers - as most shoppers have decision fatigue by the time they get there.
Businessmen and politicians such as Mark Zuckerberg, Steve Jobs and Barack Obama are known for only wearing one or two outfits in order to limit the number of decisions they need to make every day.
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One way to reduce the amount of decisions you have to make in a day is to make these decisions in advance, so they are not a choice anymore. For example, if you make a large batch of healthy dinners for the week on a Sunday and freeze them, you've decided in advance what you'll eat each weekday night. On Wednesday when you are tired from work you'll still make a healthy choice, rather than order a pizza due to decision fatigue.
4. Removing Temptation
According to a study by the American Psychological Association, training self-control through steadfastly trying to resist temptation again and again simply doesn't work.
Instead of keeping temptations around and trying to resist them (which we are terrible at), why not remove the temptations in the first place? This makes self-discipline effortless, as the decision is automatic.
If your goal is to be more productive, use Facebook Feed Eradicator and other tools to block social media apps. If your goal is to eat healthy, don't keep junk food in the house. If you are trying to quit smoking, don't stand outside with your friends while they smoke on a night out.
5. What You Don't Do is Just as Important As What You Do
Take close look at where you are spending your time and energy. What percentage is spent on things that really don't matter?
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According to this study, the average adult spends five hours per day looking at their smartphone. It sounds crazy, but when you think about the countless times you check your notifications for a minute or two, it really adds up.
With this in mind, NOT constantly scrolling through social media on your phone can make a huge difference in your day. Imagine what you could do if you had 5 extra hours every day to work towards your goals?
6. Consistent Small Habits
When young comedian Brad Isaac asked Jerry Seinfeld for advice, Seinfeld told him that the best way to improve was to write jokes every day. He advised Isaac to get a large wall calendar and a red magic marker. For every day he writes jokes, he makes a big red X over the day.
After a few days, you start to build up a unbroken chain of red Xs, which is a very satisfying feeling. After that, your only job is to not break the chain.
This strategy isn't concerned with the results themselves, it's simply about building a consistent habit. Once you do that, the results will come. (Also, it's important to pick a task that is significant enough to make a difference but small enough that you can do it every day.)
7. Focus is a Muscle You Can Build
In his book Deep Work, Cal Newport writes about how most people lack the ability to stay focused on a task for a significant period of time. To test this on yourself, try to sit down and focus on doing just ONE thing. It won't be long until your mind starts to wander and you find yourself checking your phone notifications or email.
You can build up your ability to focus by setting a timer and working exclusively on one thing for a set period of time. Put your phone out of sight or on airplane mode and close all other browser windows. At first, this focused burst might only be for 10 minutes. Then, you can work up to 15, 20, 30 minutes eventually, taking a short break between each section. (This is known as the Pomodoro Technique.)
This is similar to how High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) trains your muscles with bursts of intense, 100% physical effort alternating with periods of short rest. After you train it for a while, your "focus muscle" will become stronger.
8. Nutrition, Sleep and Exercise Are Key
If you are trying to improve your self discipline and you're not getting enough sleep, healthy food and exercise, you're fighting an uphill battle.
If you eat nutritious food, get some form of physical exercise every day and get a good sleep, you'll find it much easier to work towards your goals. You'll have more energy, an overall positive attitude and you'll be less likely to give up when the going gets tough.
Like most successful entrepreneurs, Consulting.com founder Sam Ovens is big on making sure nutrition, sleep and exercise are taken care of, as he discusses in this sneak peek from the Consulting.com Quantum Mastermind:
9. It's About the Habit, Not the Outcome
Rather than saying "I want to lose weight" say "I want to walk at least 10,000 steps per day."
"Losing weight" is something nebulous and difficult to pin down. How are you going to achieve it? How will you know when you are successful?
Walking 10,000 steps per day is something concrete that you can track and measure. If you focus on this habit, the outcome of losing weight and improving fitness will likely come as a result. So, figure out what you want to achieve and think about the habits that would get you there.
10. "It's Just What I Do"
In this podcast episode about building healthy habits, Problogger founder Darren Rowse talks about the power of saying "It's just what I do" when he is building a new habit.
I walk 10,000 steps per day. It's just what I do.
I eat 5 servings of vegetables every day. It's just what I do.
One of the reasons why this works so well is because it turns your habit into an "identity based habit." You can tell yourself to get up early or go to the gym or eat healthy once or twice, but if you don't shift your underlying identity then it will be much harder to stick with these changes long term.
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In the early days it won't be easy to say it to yourself, because it won't be true yet. But after a while, it will legitimately be "just what you do." You'll start to see yourself as a person who does that thing - so it will become part of who you are. This means you won't have to summon as much willpower to get it done, it will become natural.
You'll start thinking of yourself as the type of person who has already achieved self-discipline in the habit you want.
"I'm the type of person who wakes up at 6am and writes for an hour before breakfast."
"I'm the type of person who plans out my projects and doesn't procrastinate."
"I'm the type of person who always eats a nutritious breakfast."
"I'm the type of person who goes straight to the gym after work every day."
Every time you choose to do the action that matches this identity, you are reinforcing it. Every action is a vote cast for the type of person you are becoming. (On the flip side, every time you choose to perform a negative habit it's a vote for the opposite identity.)
11. "You Can't Improve What You Don't Measure"
You may have heard this saying before, but it's really true. Measuring progress is a powerful way to motivate yourself to improve. Clearly tracking the things that are important will help you better understand your performance and how you can improve.
You can measure anything that you want to improve, from minutes spent exercising per week to the number of books read in a year. You can use a an app or a device (such as a Fitbit) or you can simply track your progress in a notebook or a spreadsheet. It doesn't matter how you measure, it's the act of measuring that will make the difference.
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For example, a budget app can help you track your spending and see where your money is going. Seeing how much you spend on online shopping or late night burritos might encourage you to change your habits. Watching your savings total increase month on month can motivate you to keep going.
Remember: You are measuring your progress against your past self, not anyone else.
12. Eat That Frog
Mark Twain said, "If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. If it's your job to eat two frogs, it's best to eat the biggest one first."
The "frog" is the big, daunting item on your to-do list you are avoiding. If you can face this task first, you'll tackle it with a clear mind when your willpower and concentration are at their strongest. If you save it for the end of the day, you'll be tired and more likely to push it onto tomorrow's to-do list.
To prepare to eat the frog every morning, make a to-do list the night before. You can use an organization app such as Trello or Asana, or a good old-fashioned piece of paper and pen - it really doesn't matter. Place the biggest, hardest and ugliest task at the top of your list. When work begins, take action immediately and don't do anything else until you've swallowed that frog.
The good news is that once you've done the hardest task first, you can relax because the rest of your to-do list will seem easy in comparison.
13. Do Just One Pushup
Stephen Guise writes about how he overcame his resistance to working out by telling himself he only had to do ONE push up. Just doing one push-up took all the pressure and anxiety away. Of course, once he was on the floor and did that push up, he did several more. Then, he was already warmed up so he did a few other exercises as well. One simple push-up turned into a full 30 minute workout.
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This technique really works, because sometimes one of the hardest parts of doing something is the initial push to get started. We often avoid something difficult because we are thinking about how daunting the complete task is, so reducing it to something tiny can help you get started.
Tell yourself you only need to do one small thing - once you get started you'll end up doing more. This can be used for developing self discipline in any area. You can tell yourself that you'll work on your blog for 10 minutes, or that you'll read one page of a book every day.
Don't worry if the micro-goal you set for yourself is embarrassingly easy - that's the point. The key is to choose something that is so easy that you can't say no.
14. You Don't Need Permission From Anyone
If you're waiting for approval from others - don't. Building self discipline means that you will need to learn how to find that approval within yourself.
So many of us are holding back on working toward a meaningful goal, because we are worried about what other people will think. Once we let go of this need for approval from others, we are free to follow our goals and work on what is important to us.
15. But You Do Need a Supportive Environment
"Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams, encourage your ideas, support your ambitions, and bring out the best in you." - Roy Bennett
Okay, I know that in the last section I wrote about how you should forget about getting approval or permission from others when working towards your goals. However, I don't want you to get the idea that having support from others isn't important.
A support system of people who believe in you can be incredibly value when you are improving your own self-discipline and striving toward a difficult goal.
Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed. This can be harder than it sounds, because sometimes friends and family can say destructive and discouraging things out of jealousy or feelings of inadequacy. Sometimes they might even encourage you to give up on your goals, or tell you that what you are striving for is silly, pointless or impossible.
Instead, seek out people who are genuinely happy for you when you achieve your goals and who will cheer you on toward the finish line.
16. Budget Your Energy, Not Your Time
When do you do your best and most focused work? Everyone has a different circadian rhythm. Some of us are more alert and active in the morning, while others get a burst of energy at night.
I'm definitely a morning person. I know that I need to get my most important tasks done before the afternoon, otherwise my ability to concentrate will begin to wane. Working in the evening is usually pointless for me, as it takes me twice as long to do a task as it would in the morning.
My boyfriend is the opposite. He is sluggish in the morning but gets a burst of energy around 11pm and has been known to work on projects until 3am. Neither of us is right or wrong. We both have around the same amount of productive hours in a day. We just need to learn to plan our work around the times when we have the most energy.
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Think about the time of day when you naturally have the most energy and plan your schedule around that. Of course, if you have a job with set hours you might not be able to choose when you work, but this still might help you make other decisions - such as whether you should go to the gym before or after work.
17. Punch the Clock
You will have good days and bad days, but what matters is that you show up and complete the habit. This is often referred to as "punching the clock."
If you've made a goal to hit the gym every morning before work, there will be some mornings where you feel tired and you won't have your best workout ever. It's still incredibly important to follow through and go to the gym on those mornings anyway.
It's not the occasional amazing workout that makes a big difference in your health, it's the cumulative effect of many workouts over time. Sticking to the habit over the long term is the most important thing.
18. When You Catch Yourself Cheating, Reassess
I'll be perfectly honest with you, there will be a moment when you'll decide to cheat on your own plan. (If this never happens to you, you're either superhuman or a liar.)
If you've committed to counting your calories, you'll eventually eat a cookie and decide not to log it. If you've decided to turn off notifications while at work, you'll eventually decide to sneak a peek at your email. If your plan was to run for 5 miles, you might find yourself giving up and walking the last mile.
Does this mean you are a terrible, no-good person who will never amount to anything? Absolutely not. It just means that it's time to re-examine your habit and figure out why you are tempted to cut corners.
At this stage you might need to adjust something else to help yourself get back on track. For example, perhaps you don't have the energy to complete a full run in the morning because you aren't getting enough sleep. So, going to bed earlier might be the solution for getting your running goals back on track. Or, you might be giving up out of boredom - so choosing a new route or downloading some podcasts to keep you entertained while you run might help.
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The only thing you should NOT do in this situation is lie to yourself. Don't tell yourself you are doing a great job when you know deep down you really aren't. Being honest with yourself about your own progress is difficult, but it's essential if you want to see real improvements. This is a chance to understand exactly what is holding you back, so you can adjust your course and keep going.
19. Trust In a Good Habit
"When a behavior becomes habit, we stop using our decision-making skills and instead function on auto-pilot. Therefore, breaking a bad habit and building a new habit not only requires us to make active decisions, it will feel wrong. Your brain will resist the change in favor of what it has been programmed to do.
The solution? Embrace the wrong. Acknowledge that it will take a while for your new regime to feel right or good or natural. Keep chugging along. It will happen." - Jennifer Cohen, 5 Proven Methods for Gaining Self Discipline
Jennifer explains it well. Once you set a good habit in motion, you need to trust that it will get you closer to the outcome you desire - even when you feel like quitting.
20. Don't Expect Perfection
"People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily." - Zig Ziglar
Last but not least, don't expect yourself to perform perfectly every time. If you hold yourself to an unachievable standard of perfection, you'll only succeed in making yourself feel inadequate.
When you fail, forgive yourself, get up and move forward.
Make it your motto to "Never Miss Twice." That means that if you miss one workout it's not the end of the world, but you're not going to miss two in a row. If you don't write 500 words this morning, you're guaranteed to do it tomorrow morning.
Slipping up on your habits doesn't mean you are a failure - it means you are normal. Successfully improving self-discipline is not based on never making mistakes. It's all about having the grit and determination to keep persisting and improving over the long term.
Next Steps
Self-discipline is like a muscle. It doesn't explode overnight. It grows over time with consistent work.
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You don't need to master your discipline today. All you need to do is begin implementing a single one of the strategies we've listed out and take incremental steps toward growing your self discipline "muscle".
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Becoming a master of self-discipline is difficult. I mean, even becoming a self-discipline apprentice is hard! In fact, knowing more about self-discipline is an age-old study. Psychologists have delved into people's mental state, upbringing, current circumstances, and more to learn why people struggle with it so much.
The good news is that although it can sometimes seem as though you have no control when it comes to certain aspects of your life, really you do. You just don't know it yet.
Self-discipline is one of those things that requires ongoing practice and nurturing. And as with anything that takes time to develop, you too can improve your self-discipline. But first, let's get into what self-discipline is.
What is self-discipline?
Self-discipline is essentially your consistent ability to control your actions, feeling, and emotions. When it comes to your finances, it's your ability to stick to your plans of paying down debt saving and investing.
When you have a handle on self-discipline, you stay motivated and are more likely to achieve success. It is very strongly connected to willpower which is the control of one's impulses and actions.
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Willpower describes your ability to stay focused while self-discipline is you taking consistent action of time to improve your willpower. Both self-discipline and willpower go hand in hand.
Benefits of self-discipline
Improving your self-discipline has many benefits including:
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Decreases anxiety
When you are in control of how you act, you are less likely to feel anxious.
Increases your ability to achieve your long-term goals
With fewer distractions and self-imposed setbacks, having self-discipline allows you to achieve your goals. It also means getting to them faster than if you allowed yourself to get distracted.
Makes you feel happier
When you are on the path to achieving your goals, you feel happier because you are making progress. Self-discipline is a major contributor to this.
You become more resilient
As your self-discipline grows, your ability to resist temptation increases. This in turn makes you more resilient as you navigate different circumstances.
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Learning how to build self-discipline skills can allow you to cease bad habits, accomplish long-term and short-term goals, and change your life completely.
Think of it as investing in yourself. Here, we’ve outlined seven steps to build your self-discipline and work toward the better life you deserve. Well... if you work for it.
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1. Countdown, then take action
When you’re feeling particularly unmotivated, count down from ten, then force yourself to do whatever it is you're doing. A quick countdown can help shift you into the right mental space to get motivated. Sometimes all we need is a little push to take that next step—that's how self-discipline begins.
2. Put your goals where you can see them every day
Writing a goal down makes it all the more real. Hang it up somewhere you will see it often and inspire yourself — at your work desk, in your bedroom, in your car, etc. Write the goal in your yearly planner. Put it on your kitchen calendar.
You can also set actual calendar reminders on your phone to go off once a week or so. But be nice to yourself. Don’t scare or shame yourself into your goals; rather, be happy, positive, and encouraging.
Increase self-discipline by adding motivational quotes from people you admire. Not sure you have the right goals? Spend some time going over your goals to make sure they align with the things you truly want for yourself.
3. Remind yourself why you started
Keep your end-goal in mind without allowing yourself to forget where you started. Constantly remind yourself — especially when it gets hard — how and why you set this goal and what you will have achieved when you’re done.
Visualize yourself having taken complete control of your life and accomplishing whatever specific goal you’ve set. Set reminders on your phone to tell yourself how far you’ve come and how proud you are. Affirmations are also a great way to keep your self focused on your why.
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4. Set small goals first
Try not to overwhelm yourself by setting the bar too high. Build your confidence by setting and achieving a small goal before you go for a big one.
For example, if your ultimate goal is to run five miles without stopping, set an initial goal of running a quarter mile without stopping.
Be patient with yourself and try not to get frustrated with the process. Accomplishing those small goals first can give you the motivation you need to keep going.
5. Practice prioritizing
Decide which tasks are worth dedicating the most effort to, then organize your day to totally crush them. If you set a study plan, you're less likely to procrastinate on the less-than-savory tasks.
Put things you don't necessarily love at the top of your priorities, and you'll be relieved they're done instead of putting them off another day.
6. Know your weaknesses
Then, proactively combat them. Determine how you might slip up and how you can prevent that from happening. If you know you need to run a 5K this Saturday but your friend is having a barbeque on Friday night, it might be best to skip it.
If you know you need to get to work an hour earlier but you're a bit of a night owl, invest in some Melatonin. You have the tools to fight back against your own demons. You just need to hunt them down.
7. Get friends to hold you accountable
You are less likely to cheat on your goals if someone you admire is watching. Have your hero (or just your BFF) set a goal alongside you. You can cheer each other on. And when the going gets tough, you can be there to give each other that extra push.
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Self-discipline quotes to keep you motivated
We all need a "pick me up" as we work on our self-discipline and achieving our goals. And so here are some great self-discipline quotes to help you stay motivated.
"Just because you're struggling with self-discipline doesn't mean you have to raise the white flag and declare your self-improvement efforts a complete failure. Instead, work to increase the chances that you'll stick to your healthier habits - even when you don't feel like it." - Amy Morin
“The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable prerequisite for success.” - Brian Tracy
“Beautiful gems can emerge from dirt. Struggle can teach you self-discipline and resilience.” - Dipa Sanatani
“The pain of self-discipline will never be as great as the pain of regret.” - Anonymous
“Self-discipline is the magic power that makes you virtually unstoppable.” - Anonymous>
“Without any self-sacrifice, how can there be a success?” - Lailah Gifty Akita
All successes begin with self-discipline. It starts with you.” Dwayne Johnson
“Self-discipline is the only power which can keep you energized even in the toughest of the circumstances.” - Sukant Ratnakar
“Success doesn’t just happen. You have to be intentional about it, and that takes discipline.” – John C. Maxwell
“We do today what they won’t, so tomorrow we can accomplish what they can’t.” - Dwayne Johnson<
“Don’t ever stop believing in your own personal transformation. It is still happening even on the days you may not realize it or feel like it.” - Lalah Delia
“Self-discipline is nothing but self-consciousness.” - Pearl Zhu
“Success begins with self-discipline.” - Sunday Adelaja
The best self-discipline book to read: No Excuses
Hands down, the best book on self-discipline is No Excuses!: The Power Of Self Discipline by Brian Tracy. It shows you how you can achieve success in your life, including your personal and financial goals.
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You'll learn how to be more disciplined and each chapter has exercises to help you apply the "no excuses" approach to your own life. I recommend this book every chance I get and I find myself reviewing it often.
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In closing
When it comes to self-discipline, it's all about making the commitment to improve and picking yourself back up when you slip. With that being said, determine one area of your life that you want to improve on.
Next layout an action plan to help you with improving yourself discipline. With time, effort, and consistency, you'll be making great strides with your self-discipline. Be sure to check out our list of actionable self-improvement ideas for different aspects of your life!
If you never had those traits instilled in you at a young age, chances are it would take mistakes with devastating consequences to teach you how.
Examples:
Not paying bills and getting lights or water turned off.
Not paying rent and losing your home, in serious situations ending up completely homeless on the streets because you were not responsible.
Losing a job and not being able to pay rent and experiencing the same loss.
Spending money on partying, drugs and alcohol BEFORE buying your basic necessities like toiletpaper, dish soap, shampoo etc and ending up wiping your ass with napkins from the gas station or using watered down soap that barely cleans you and your dishes for example.
Not saving laundry Matt money and ending up with stank ass clothing for another month.
My point is either really want to do better or your mistakes will force you to make a choice. This doesn't always mean you'll learn and better yourself after fucking up either. There's so many people who make the same stupid choices their entire lives because they have no desire to change.
Want it.
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What are 3 examples of responsibility?
Responsibility means you do the things you are supposed to do.
What is responsibility? We have a few different ways that we talk about responsibility. There’s being responsible, taking responsibility, acting responsibly, and having responsibilities. In simple words, responsibility is about doing the things we are supposed to do, and accepting the positive or negative outcomes of our actions.
Responsibility means you do the things you are supposed to do and accept the results of your actions.
A responsibility: something you are expected to do
Being responsible: doing the things you are supposed to do
Accepting responsibility: taking the praise or the blame for something you have done
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What is a responsibility?
What is a consequence?
Why is being responsible important?
Examples of responsibilities and consequences
What is a responsibility?
A responsibility is something you are expected to do.
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A responsibility might be a task you are expected to do. For example, your parents expect you to brush your teeth. Brushing your teeth is “a responsibility” and it is your responsibility to brush your teeth every day. Another example is that your teacher expects you to finish your homework on time and to do your best job. So it’s your responsibility to do your homework and to do it to the best of your abilities.
A responsibility might be a way you are expected to act. For example, your parents expect that if you go to play at the park, you will play in a way that won’t seriously hurt yourself or someone else. It’s your responsibility to have fun in a safe and courteous way.
What is a consequence?
A consequence is the result or outcome of our actions. Consequences can be positive (good) or negative (not good). For example, if you are supposed to do your chores by Sunday at 5:00 and you get them done, the consequence of your actions is that you get paid and your parents are happy with you. In another example, if you leave your bike behind your dad’s car and he doesn’t see it and runs over it, the consequence of your action is that your bike is ruined.
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Examples of responsibility and consequences
Responsibility Example 1: Feeding the Dog
Responsibility: Each morning you are expected to feed the dog.
Consequence if you are responsible: First, the dog has a full belly and is healthy. Second, your parents know they can trust you to do what you say you will do and will be more likely to give you space and freedom to manage your own time.
Consequence if you are irresponsible (not responsible): First, the dog is hungry and long-term you could harm the dog’s health. Second, your parents are disappointed and feel they have to check up on you and control your behavior more.
Responsibility Example 2: Being Home On Time
Responsibility: You meet your friends at the park to play and are expected to be home by 5:30.
Consequence if you are responsible: You set an alarm on your watch and make sure you leave the park with enough time to get home by 5:30. Your mom is confident you are safe and well and she trusts you to go to the park and hang with your friends next time.
Consequence if you are irresponsible: You lose track of time and don’t get home until 6:00. Your mom has had 30 minutes to worry about where you are and now she’s upset. She says next time you can only go to the park if your big brother can go with you and supervise. You lost freedom and independence.
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Example 3: Using the Internet safely
Responsibility: Taking care of your personal safety. Each of us is responsible for our own personal safety, which means we are expected not to do things that put ourselves in danger. Because of this, teachers and parents expect kids to use the Internet responsibly. They teach kids how to only view sites that are safe and they expect kids to avoid sites where they might find content that isn’t appropriate or healthy for young people. Being responsible in how we use the Internet, means we do as teachers and parents instruct and only go to the siteas we know are safe.
Consequence if you are responsible: You see content that is safe and don’t interact with people who might want to do you harm. Your parents and teachers can trust you to use the computer by yourself.
Consequence if you are irresponsible: You may see things that aren’t healthy for a young person to see, or you might interact with people who want to hurt you. Your parents and teachers take away your freedom on the Internet and you must ask for permission and only use the computer when you have an adult watching you.
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Why responsibilty is important
To understand why responsibility is important, think about what life would be like if people don't act responsibly. If no one does what they say they will do, how can anyone trust each other? If no one is responsible about cleaning up after themselves how could we live in a healthy environment? If parents aren't responsible for their kids, and kids aren't responible with their chores or homework... what would happen? What if other kids at the park weren't responsible and played in a dangerous way?
All of us in society need to act with responsibilty if we want to live safely together.
Today we are going to learn about the secret to building self-discipline. Now, let’s begin.
When you think about people with exceptional self-discipline, you probably picture martial
artists and professional athletes, people who have practiced the same thing for years
until they’ve completely mastered it.
But self-discipline is about more than just training and competition, in fact, many of
the most disciplined individuals are just regular people who have gradually developed
enough self-control to accomplish their goals.
Whether you want to start your own company, lose weight, or just stop watching so much
TV, self-discipline is an incredibly useful skill that keeps you motivated, clear-headed,
and focused on your objective.
But what exactly is the secret to building self-discipline?
Despite what you might have seen in movies, you don’t have to meditate on a mountaintop
or wax an old man’s car a dozen times.
These kinds of extremes, while entertaining, don’t actually work, because time and consistency are essential for anyone hoping to live a more disciplined life. So, the real key to developing self-discipline is moderation. Doing something in moderation means having the power to stop yourself when you’ve had enough.
If you want to have a more controlled diet or reduce the time you spend playing video games, you shouldn’t try to suddenly make extreme changes to your lifestyle. Instead, focus on moderating your behavior, reducing your bad habits little by little to develop the kind of self-discipline that will last a lifetime. So how do you put all of this into practice?
Here are 7 strategies you can use to master self-discipline.
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Find Your Weaknesses No matter what kind of bad habits you have, the first and most important step toward becoming a more disciplined person is identifying and accepting your weaknesses. The simple truth is that everyone in the world has a weakness for something, whether it’s eating junk food, drinking too much coffee, or spending money you don’t have. While some weaknesses are more destructive than others, building self-discipline isn’t about getting rid of those weaknesses, but learning how to control them.
Many people never even get to this stage, because they can’t accept how little control they have over their own actions. This kind of denial can lead to addiction, so it’s important that you address these issues before they take over of your life. For many people, the idea of moderation is much less intimidating than cutting yourself off completely, so instead of focusing about which bad habits you need to remove, think about which ones you’d like to lessen.
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Create Easy Habits On your road to becoming a more disciplined person, you’re going to develop a set of new and improved habits, but it isn’t going to happen overnight. Imagine you’re trying to lose twenty pounds. You can’t just wake up one morning and decide it’s time for a thirty-minute run when you haven’t worked out in years. You’re going to end up exhausted, sore, and unmotivated, so you should start slow and work up toward your goal over time. Plan out more manageable, easier workouts that leave you feeling optimistic and proud of yourself.
Remember that the goal isn’t to lose all the weight in one day, but to create healthier habits that you genuinely enjoy doing, even after you’ve reached your ultimate goal.
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Use Rewards Positive reinforcement is a great way to make sure that your new habits stick around, so don’t be afraid to reward yourself for improving. In the same way that you give a dog a treat when they sit, people are more likely to behave a certain way when they know there’s a reward on the line. Rewards will also motivate them to work harder by giving them something positive to look forward to. This is especially useful for people who are having a hard time getting their new habits started, because they haven’t developed enough self- discipline to push through the beginning stages. Say you want to cut out sugary foods from your diet, but are struggling to keep it up. By using a reward system, you can focus all of your attention on the cookie or brownie that’s waiting for you at the end of the day, making it easier to avoid breaking you diet otherwise. This way, you are always in control of your habits and impulses, instead of letting them control you.
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Personal Standards Disciplined people often motivate themselves to keep pushing by strictly adhering to a set of standards for their own life.
Standards are basically personal limits, which lay out the absolute minimum that you’re
willing to accept for yourself.
But these kinds of boundaries only work if you are willing to hold yourself accountable when you break them. This is where most people struggle, because they end up setting really high standards that are impossible to meet consistently. It’s important to remember that standards and goals are not the same thing.
While goals are things you work and reach for over time, you should realistically be able to meet your standards every single day. Writers, for example, might aim to write 3000 words a day, but have a standard of only 2000. Why are personal standards so useful? Most people tend to have an all-or-nothing approach to their goals. Either they can it done immediately or just give up. So, by setting standards, you give yourself a reason to keep working even when you aren’t actually able to achieve your goal.
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Look Ahead After you’ve identified what your weaknesses are, it’s important that you realize when you’re putting yourself in dangerous situations. Imagine you’re trying to limit how much fast food you eat. You used to eat a burger and fries for lunch every day, but have decided to switch over to salads. So would it be a good idea to eat your salad inside a McDonald’s? My point is that you should recognize situations where your weaknesses might get the best of you and avoid them.
If you want to stop getting distracted by your phone at work, for example, turn it onto
airplane mode at the beginning of the day or leave your phone in your bag to make sure
you couldn’t get distracted even if you wanted to. Of course, there are certain times when it’s impossible to avoid your weaknesses, so make
it easier on yourself by planning ahead.
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Figure out what you’re going to do to avoid falling back into old habits and find a way
to reward yourself for resisting the temptation.
This kind of planning not only helps you stay on track, but also gives you a sense of control
over your life.
6.
Set Alarms Time is a slippery slope when it comes to bad habits.
If you tend to watch too much TV, play too many video games, or waste hours on social
media, you know how easy it is to justify spending a few more minutes to complete a
mission or watch the rest of an episode.
But, a few minutes can easily turn into a few hours, and before you know it, you’ve
used up the whole night.
So how can you use moderation to make sure this doesn’t keep happening?
Most people tend to focus on removing the TV and video games, getting rid of them even
though they weren’t the problem in the first place.
The real problem is how much time you spend on them.
In other words, you can keep playing the games you love as long as you stay within a set
time limit.
Next time you start up any game, set an alarm for one hour and make sure you turn the volume
all the way up. The goal here is to force yourself to physically acknowledge when you’ve hit your limit and stop there. If you want to take it one step further, put your alarm across the room, so that you have to put the controller down and stand up to turn it off. That short walk across the room gives you the chance to reset and consider your priorities, instead of mindlessly playing for another hour.
7.
Make Adjustments Every person’s path toward developing self-discipline
is unique.
Sure, there are a lot of very specific plans out there, which have worked wonders for other
people, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll do the same things for you.
Elon Musk might have developed self-discipline and boosted his productivity by planning every
moment of every day, but other just as successful people might find this approach suffocating
and unproductive.
So instead of just copying what your favorite celebrity is doing, you should build a routine
that is designed for your individual goals, strengths, and weaknesses.
If you know you’re significantly more energetic at night, don’t force yourself to work out
first thing in the morning just because other disciplined people prefer it that way.
As long as you are consistently setting and achieving goals, you’ll develop the kind
of unbreakable self-discipline that you’re looking for.
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What makes you a responsible person?
Respect for Others
Respect for others is based on self-respect and is summed up in the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. It is the value that makes the world a more decent and civilized place.
People show respect in many ways. They speak and act civilly—avoiding insults, cruel remarks and rude or crude language. They are courteous and considerate of others, including family members and friends, and care about their rights, beliefs and well-being. They treat others fairly and as individuals, regardless of race, sex, age or ethnic group. They display tolerance for people who do not share their personal beliefs and likes—so long as those people do not harm others.
Research indicates that children learn to respect others when they are treated with respect themselves. Constant criticism of a child, negative comments about him and failure to praise his achievements can lead the child to be disrespectful to others. Treating children with respect pays large dividends both to families and to societies as a whole.
What You Can Do
Practice respectful ways of communicating. Show your child how to talk to others with respect.
Help your child to resolve conflicts nonviolently. When facing a conflict, encourage your child to do the following: (1) Find out what the conflict is. For example, if your child is angry because his little brother barges into his room without knocking, help him to explain the conflict by using an "I" statement, such as "I feel angry when you come into my room without knocking." (2) Next, suggest different ways he might resolve the conflict. He could say to his brother, "I know I can't always hear when I'm listening to music, so you knock really loud five times—if I don't answer, then open the door." Or, "If I don't answer your knock, slide a note under the door." Or, "Let's use our walkie talkies." (3) Then have your child agree on one of the choices. (4) Finally, have him make a plan to check whether the solution is working.
Teach your child to respect the valued traditions of your heritage. Talk about family customs for showing respect, for honoring elders and for helping the community. Encourage her to do these things.
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Self-respect means taking satisfaction in appropriate behavior and hard—won accomplishments. People with self-respect also respect others. They do not need to disparage others or build themselves up by bragging or exaggerating their abilities or talents. They do not need lots of money or power to feel good about themselves.
People who respect themselves view selfishness, loss of self-discipline, recklessness, cowardice and dishonesty as wrong and unworthy of them. They have inner strength and are unwilling to let others use or manipulate them. They know that showing patience or tolerance does not mean allowing others to mistreat them.
People with self-respect do not crumble when they fail. They accept mistakes as a part of life. As we help our children set high standards for themselves, we also need to let them know that failure is no embarrassment when they have done their best.
Teaching children self-respect, however, does not mean complimenting everything they do. They also need honest criticism from time to time. When we do criticize, we should focus on things they have done, not on them personally.
What You Can Do
Encourage your child to build a positive identity that focuses on her integrity and talents.
Emphasize that character is built upon the decisions and actions a person takes each day.
Work with your child to help him reach his full potential by encouraging him to develop his talents, set reachable goals and honor himself as a unique person.
Teach your child how to choose good values. Help her reason about what are worthy goals and what are proper means to reach those goals.
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Courage is the ability to overcome fear in order to do what is right, even if it is difficult or risky. Courage can mean facing physical dangers, but it also can mean standing up for beliefs and making hard decisions on the basis of evidence rather than on what is the easy or popular thing to do. It means being neither reckless nor cowardly but facing up to our duties and responsibilities.
Courage, however, does not mean never being afraid; and children should be told that there are times when it is all right to be frightened and to run away from danger. But they also need to learn how to face and overcome some fears, such as a fear of the dark.
What You Can Do
Coach your child on how to be brave. Praise him when he acts courageously (but never ridicule him for any reason—ridicule can have long-lasting effects on a child's self-confidence).
- Discuss with your child how to say no. Sometimes children don't know how to say no to peers who ask them to do dangerous or risky things. After identifying ways that she might be tempted, teach your child a three-step process for self-protection:
- Apply the "trouble" rule: Will this action break a law or rule?
- Make a good decision—think carefully about the risks or possible consequences.
- Act fast to avoid trouble, using options such as the following:
- Say no!
- Leave.
- Make a joke.
- Suggest something better to do.
- Make an excuse such as, "My dad will get really mad."
- Act shocked.
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Being responsible means being dependable, keeping promises and honoring our commitments. It is accepting the consequences for what we say and do. It also means developing our potential.
People who are responsible don't make excuses for their actions or blame others when things go wrong. They think things through and use good judgment before they take action. They behave in ways that encourage others to trust them.
People who are responsible take charge of their lives. They make plans and set goals for nurturing their talents and skills. They are resilient in finding ways to overcome adversity. They make decisions, taking into account obligations to family and community.
Children need to learn that being part of a family and a community involves accepting responsibilities. When each of us acts responsibly, our families and communities will be stronger.
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What You Can Do
Make agreements with your child and expect him to follow through.
When things go wrong, help your child take responsibility for her part and make a plan to do things differently next time.
Encourage your child to find out more about the world and how his actions may affect others far away.
Citizenship requires doing our share for our community and our country. Being a good citizen means caring about the good of society and participating actively to make things better.
Research reveals that participating in community service programs and learning about the importance and value of serving others can be a powerful influence on positive character development.
Patriotism is an important part of good citizenship. Patriotism is love of and loyalty to our country. It involves honoring the democratic ideals on which the country is based and expecting elected officials to do the same, respecting and obeying its laws and honoring its flag and other symbols. It also involves accepting the responsibilities of good citizenship, such as keeping informed about national issues, voting, volunteering and serving the country in times of war.
What You Can Do
Take your child with you when you vote. Talk to him about the candidates, the offices they aspire to hold and their positions on key issues.
Participate in community-building activities, such as cleaning up parks and assisting with school activities.
Discuss citizenship with your child and find examples of what good citizens have done for their communities.
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